Monday, May 11, 2015

My Mother

Dear blogging friends,
I have been out of pocket recently for many reasons...you remember that I graduated on May 1st!!!
Well, my dear sweet Mother passed away unexpectedly on April 30th.  We were very shocked and devastated, but she did not linger or suffer, and that is a blessing.  She was a widow for 29 years and made the best of any situation.  She was a truly happy person and lived life to the fullest.  She loved to read the classics and had a wonderful library of literature.  She was artistic and loved music.  She volunteered at the local hospital, and was selected Volunteer of the Year recently.  She achieved her goal of visiting all 50 states and enjoyed traveling.  She was 85.


My family told me that I must go ahead and march in graduation.  I wasn't sure if it was the proper thing to do, but they assured me that she would want for me to do so.  It was hard to do, but I am glad that I went ahead and participated in commencement.  My brother, husband, son, and daughter-in-law were there with me.

Her service was lovely.  The priest mixed scripture with literature quotes.  There was a bag piper at the cemetery.  The flowers were pretty and the Spring weather was lovely. Everything was so green. She is now at rest beside my Daddy.

We are all doing ok.  I am so thankful that she was neat and extremely organized.  She lived 90 miles from me so I am having to go to her condo when I can to take care of things.  I am now committed to making my own home and everything neat and easy like hers, so that my child will not be burdened when my time comes!  I have never thought about it before, but I am so lucky in that respect!

Thank you for reading this post.  It wasn't easy to write, but I know that this is how things are supposed to be.  We are at peace and I am very honored that I had such loving and wonderful parents.  I hope to carry on their legacy.



Frances

28 comments:

jhm said...

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunately we don't get to pick the timing. My mom passed 3 days after she had a new great-grandson.
Hang in there. God will be with you.

Jackie

marly said...

Oh Frances I am so sorry.

Beth said...

What an emotional rollercoaster! I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you took comfort from knwing how proud your mother would have been. Taking part in the graduation ceremony was the right thing to do.

Annette-California said...

Dear Frances! I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom sounds like she was a wonderful loving woman. My heart goes out to you. What a shock for you and your family! I too hope you take comfort knowing your mom is so very proud of you. Much love, many hugs and I will pray for you & your mom. love Annette

Jacquie Morris said...

Oh my... I am always at a loss what to do or say to friends that have lost loved ones. I am so very sorry to read that your mother has passed... And I too think you did the right thing and went ahead to graduate.. You have worked so hard for your Masters and your dear mother would be so happy for you now, I am sure of it.
My thoughts are with you at this time and remember you have a lot of friends to support you here in blog land :)
Xxx

butterfly said...

So sorry for your sad loss my friend .
It is always so sad to lose your mother .
Sending you Hugs and XXX .

Teresa B said...

Sorry for your loss, but you did the right thing in going ahead with your graduation, I'm sure it's what your mother would have wanted. She's very proud of you.

Justine said...

So sorry for your loss Frances. Your mother sounds like a wonderful person and I love the photos of the two of you together. I'm sure she wouldn't have wanted you to miss out on your graduation ceremony.

Shirlee said...

I am so very sorry for your loss Frances. It sounds like your mother was a very special person who lived live to the fullest. You are blessed to have so many wonderful memories of her. You are in my prayers.

Pamela said...

I am so sorry, Frances. Your mother sounds like an amazing woman and the sadness will turn to great memories in time. Until then, know that hugs are coming to you long distance, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Angela Tucker said...

I am so sorry, Frances. The first picture of you and your mom is beautiful. I love that you say she was a truly happy person. What a wonderful legacy to leave her family!

Vonna, The Twisted Stitcher said...

Frances, my deepest, most heartfelt sympathy to you. She lead a life to be proud of in raising a family devoted to the Lord and love of music in you! May her soul and all the souls of the faithfully departed, by the mercy of God, rest in peace. She is remembered in my prayers as is your family.

KimM said...

Oh, Frances - my deepest sympathy. I truly understand your loss. It's so difficult and heartbreaking. I'm sure you have a sweet angel on your shoulder.
Love and hugs

Vickie said...

Dear Frances, I am so sorry. How wonderful to know that she is in heaven with your father. What a comfort. I am praying for you.

Daniela Bencúrová said...

Dear Frances, condolences!
May 1 you really do well! Your mom would be happy with you in such a great day!
My mother died in 1993, I did not have 40 years. Dad died 10 years before the mother: - ((((

Terri said...

So sorry for your loss! What a great tribute to her!

Hugs and prayers!

Andrea said...

Oh Frances, I'm so sorry to hear this. She sounded like a truly beautiful person. (((Hugs)))

Ariadne said...

I am so sorry for your loss!You were right to attend your graduation!That was the right thing to do. Our parents are always proud of us for what we achieve and so were yours!AriadnefromGreece!

Carol said...

Oh, Frances, I am so sorry to read this... It is one thing to pass after a long illness, but so very different when it is a sudden loss. She looks and sounds like a beautiful lady in every way and I can only imagine how you must miss her. I am dreading that day when my mom is gone--truly...

I'm sure she was as proud of you as you were of her! Sending a warm hug and keeping you and your family in my prayers.

rosek1870 said...

I miss b so very sorry for your loss. Life is never quite the same after we lose our mothers but after almost 5 years I can say that I feel her presence with me everyday. I know your mother was so very proud as you walked down the aisle at your graduation. Sending hugs and prayers, Rose

Sheryl S. said...

So sorry to hear your sad news but think you did correctly in graduatiing, your mum would have wanted you to carry on. She will be so proud of you.

diamondc said...

Dear Frances: My heart cries for your loss, I am sure your Parents are now together and enjoying each other.
I love this tribute it is lovely and touching.
May your Family continue to heal and keep fresh the memories of your Parents.

Many Blessings

Catherine

StitchinByTheLake said...

I am so very sorry for your loss - the passing of our mothers affects unlike most other losses. The first person ever to love us, and probably the only one to really love us unconditionally, our biggest supporter and cheerleader, our best friend...there are not adequate words to express that relationship. blessings, marlene

Melody said...

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your Mother. I am glad you had your family with you at your graduation, and that they encouraged you to participate.

So glad that sweet memories remain. Take care.

Shelly said...

So sorry, Frances, on the passing of your mother. I think she was quite a woman and a mother because of the person that you are. We are all our mothers daughters. Take care.

Mary said...

I am just reading this post, so sorry to hear of your Mother's passing. Sounds like she lived a happy and fulfilled life. May she rest in peace.

Brigitte said...

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Kaisievic said...

Oh, Frances, I am so sorry to read about your mother's unexpected passing. I know how hard that can be as my husband and I are still trying to deal with the unexpected loss of my DFIL who had lived with us for over 16 years. It is devastating but your mother sounds like she was a wonderful woman who, on the whole, had a wonderful life. And it is good to know that she did not suffer, my mother died slowly over 2013 and it was truly awful for everyone. You have lots of friends and family who love you and all of your bloggy friends, too, so you are not alone. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family, my dear friend. xoxox